So now, imagine if you led by example and showed your child that you're not just working to pay the bills, but that you are trying to be the best person you can be so that your life can be a living example of hard work, dedication and commitment.
For the sake of this blog, let's do an exercise with your child as a teaching tool. Ask your child who do they idealize and why? If your child does not idealize you, ask them why? You should always be a role model for your child. No matter what influences there are in the world; entertainment, sports, other parents, etc., you should live your life in front of your child in such a way that you will always be number 1 in their eyes.
Smoking, drinking and profanity around your child will lead them to following in your footsteps and trying to emulate you, but in a negative light. So I ask you, "Are your children proud of you? Does it matter if your children are proud of you?" I remember growing up and my parents used to monitor what I watched on TV and what I listened to on the radio. Although I did not like it, I appreciated it later, because TV and radio has more influences on your children than what we realize. In this generation, the influence is more negative than positive. If we as parents include our children or involve our children into everything positive that we do, this will aid in making them proud of us.
Start identifying family members that your child should be proud of and explain to your child why they should be proud. When you are proud of someone, that usually means that person has worked hard to accomplish something or they have just decided to change as a person. If your child can identify others in their family that are making a difference, even if it is in a small way, that begins to shape their minds that it is more than just what their peers are presenting to them in school.
The definition of proud is: feeling deep pleasure or satisfaction as a result of one's own achievements, qualities or possessions or those of someone with whom one is closely associated. It also states being very happy and pleased because of something you have done, something you own, and someone you know or are related to.
So as a parent share your accomplishments with your children regularly, so they can become proud of you and learn even more from you. Don't lie, but share with them how you overcame different struggles and you are where you are today, because of the decisions you made in your life to do better. These are the cycles of parenting we need to start establishing. Trust me; this practice will go a long way.