The importance of a board meeting is to establish consistency and continuity in our homes. It is also important to maintain unity in the homes and among the parent-child relationship, which will minimize negative outside influences. It is a way for everyone to come together to discuss the positives and negatives in their daily lives. Board meetings are not a platform for the parent to point out all the negatives in their child, but it is a platform where there is open forum among parent and child that breeds growth for the entire family.
Board meetings will instill values in the children that will cause them to have structure, responsibilities and help point them in the direction to be goal-oriented which will eliminate excuses to fail. Board meetings will also cause the parent to understand some of the pressures that children keep inside themselves but are displayed through negative behaviors. Board meetings should not be conducted with an angry or frustrated tone, but a pleasant tone and a safe environment, conducive for open dialogue.
Board meetings should be constructive where the parent develops an action plan that assist the entire family with strategies. Examples on what the meetings should consist of:
(1) A set time that is free of interruptions for the weekly board meetings.
(2) A preplanned agenda of what will be discussed at the meeting. Board meetings should have no surprises, but be structured in a way that always brings resolutions.
(3) Everyone's small and large achievements should be recognized from the prior week.
(4) Everyone explain what they gave back to society. Who did they help the prior week? How did they make someone else's life better?
(5) Open discussion on individual goals for both parent and child (short and long term). Goals should be written down to keep everyone motivated and on course to obtain their goals.
(6) Open discussion that will allow everyone to speak on their fears, limitations, challenges that hinder them and problems they are facing. This could be at school, work, among their peers, youth sports or within themselves.
(7) Open dialogue about changes that can be and need to be made in the household that will cause the house to function more smoothly. Exp: chores, school work, household finances, work schedules, school activities, etc.
(8) Open dialogue on: if there was something they could change about their life, what would it be?
(9) Open dialogue on: what are your expectations for your children and your children should tell you what their expectations are for you.
(10) Everyone give their final thoughts on what came out of the meeting as well as what they will be accountable to for the upcoming week. Everyone should also give positive affirmation and hugs to reinforce their commitment and love to each other.
Because we live in a society that is forever changing, you may read this and feel like you do not have time to implement another thing in your schedule. Regular board meetings will help minimize things that go unnoticed in the family. The board meetings are to start a new beginning and change the cycle of the way we do parenting.
I suggest starting and closing all board meetings with prayer.